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I Am Going to Steal Your Imagination

Going away this past week with J and the kids to visit relatives in WA was awesome.  We may look like a walking pharmacy to TSA, but we all made it. 

Watching K learn to navigate through 2 new houses quickly showed how adept her memory is when it comes to memorizing layouts.  In 2 large houses, it took her about an hour each time of wandering slowly with bumps, trips and minor falls before she was back up and running everywhere.  It’s gratifying to have others notice the progress in our kids.  All three have had reasons for people to expect little from them, and all three consistently out perform expectations. 

It seems every time we travel, our kids pick up knowledge and or skills simply by being exposed to other families and their ways of life.  Sometimes it takes days or weeks after to fully manifest, but there were at least two big take aways from this trip.  The first came from a favorite line heard during the trip from one of the cousins, “You stole my imagination!”  This became a popular threat to keep our kids in-line.  We would threaten to take their imagination.  This worked as well as stealing their smile used to work.  It’s another priceless interrupt to whatever process we wanted stopped, and we always need more of those.

The second was probably the biggest thus far.  After watching me struggle to get O ready for bed a couple of nights, my brother in-law shared a method to get him to bed which thus far worked surprisingly well.  I have usually gotten A to bed with a prayer ending it by saying for what we are thankful today.  The thankful thoughts have thus far been enough of calming boon to allow her some rest.  For O, this never worked as he has never had the religious bent of my daughter. 

For O, what worked well on the trip and first few nights back were talking about the best parts of the day.  We then went on to how much was possible when rested with the promise of tomorrow being another exciting and good day if we have rested well enough to enjoy it.  It’s a much more straight forward approach, and I had tried it a few times before without success.  I couldn’t find a way to show him the relationship.  However, kids change and mature.  It seems O has grown a bit more self reflective which I wasn’t picking up.  Sometimes, it is hard for me to see what happens right in front of me, and it takes somebody else pointing it out. 

I note while getting to go to bed and sleep has gotten easier, the staying asleep through the night evaporated the night we got home.  Still, progress is progress, and it’s enough to give me hope.

Sometimes it takes going away to realize what is missing.  I have lived in MD for 27 years, but it wasn’t until this past week I realized how lacking our parks and public play grounds are.  I’ve said for years my retirement destination of choice would be OR or WA.  In WA, it awesome watching my kids play on their fantastic playgrounds in Aberdeen and Olympia.  I’ll admit it, I’m jealous.  If it had just been 1 or 2, I could have attributed it to just a few outstanding parks, but it was persistent.  We just don’t have the quality parks they have there.

Speaking of things seen better or more clearly from a distance, check out these shots taken out the window of our plane on the ride home.

my favorite and current wall paper:

 the other three:

Here are a couple of miscellaneous things I really enjoyed on the trip:

1) Listening to A describe Rent after she went with the older cousins and moms to go see it.  She talks mostly about the man who dressed like a woman.  The idea is funny to her, but she liked Angel’s character the best in the show.

2) I loved getting lost on a run in Aberdeen, WA.  Suddenly what was to be a quick 2 mile run got much much longer.  I was able to keep my pace for most of the 45 min run, but I had to stop twice because the hills got the better of me temporarily. 

3) Number 2 was only possible because of the weather.  It never even reached the mid 80’s, and it spent most of the time in the lower 70’s.  It’s July!  My physical symptoms and pain were at their nadir for months despite being the last week in my Tysabri infusion cycle.  At home, it was 100 plus as there was a week-long heat wave that broke the night we returned.  Now that is awesome timing. 

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2012 The year of No Stops

In the musical Rent, the song ‘Seasons of Love’ asks how we measure year.  Is it in day lights, sunsets, miles or strife? It suggests we measure the year in love.  By this measure the past year has been an incredible one.  Why stop? “Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes” hardly seems enough.

This past year felt like one lived without breaks.  Until the middle of December it never felt like I needed them.  A year lived without stops left me running a half marathon at a pace I wouldn’t have dreamed possible. It left me averaging 6 hours of sleep with every minute crammed to the gills whether with work, a trip to Disney World, taking my kids to Tae Kwon Do or either of my kids to one of their doctors.

The year saw the loss of our oldest dog and the addition of another left in our back yard with a hot summer day forecast.  His name was picked by our youngest after listing interesting names from books.  K laughed at “Fizban the Fabulous,” and thus Fizban came into his new name, even if most of the time he is simply called “Fiz.”

The year saw tremendous growth for all of the kids with K leading the way, now standing, running, bumping and falling her way to every drawer and counter she can reach searching for new sensations, new sounds.  Are we ever any different?  Do we ever “grow up,” or do we simply require more to stimulate us?

For O, he has gained tremendous awareness, and now (sometimes) stops to think and recognize emotions, his and others. A has learned a love of reading which will serve her well for as long as she can keep it to go along with the joy she has discovered riding horses.  Most of all, our family, as a whole, learned we can survive and thrive despite all life has thrown at us.  All in all, we’ve come a long way in a mere year.

Here’s to a year with no stops gone by.  May the next bring as much good fortune for all.

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