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“Men Plan. God Laughs.”

It’s been a funny week in terms of my plans and how things worked out.    Everything has turned out positive if not as intended.
As I mentioned in my last post, my wife and I had been married for 3,000 days on July 4th, and yes I am the nerd who figures these things out.  I had a bottle of wine in our liquor cabinet in mind, and I hoped for a nice romantic date night after the kids went to bed.  Since the 3,000 days fell on the fourth of July, I thought I would try for a Jewish tradition of the day begins at sun down not sun up.  So on the night of the 3rd, I thought we would have some private time together after the kids went to bed.  Then I saw on Facebook.  Justin Hines is playing at the Kennedy Center.  Even though O had Taekwondo and wouldn’t be able to go, I knew my daughter would love to see him.
Back in November, Justin Hines came to play a concert at Census to kick off our combined federal campaign.  When he came on stage, I had no idea what his act would be, and when he started talking, I still didn’t know.  Then he started singing, and he is an amazing singer.  I bought his CD and took it home for the kids to listen.  Both were fascinated by the “guy in the wheel chair” and we watched all of his videos on YouTube.  A was ever more entranced by his songs and his story, so when the opportunity came to go and see him, she was as excited as I have ever seen her.  
In truth, there is no way I would rather have spent my 3,000thday of marriage than taking my daughter to a concert which left her crying tears of happiness when he sang her favorite song, “Say What you Will.”  How often can a parent bring their kid to tears of joy?  It is my current favorite of all the father daughter moments we have ever had.

My wife got the necklace but was sleepy by the time I gave it, and to my knowledge has not found the earrings yet.  So, there’s always tomorrow right?  Seems I say that a lot.  The next time came Friday morning after J, A, and O all left to go to a friend’s house in Cape Cod.  They left at 3am, and some time before 5 somebody left the dog below in our back yard with an untied rope.  I posted signs, called animal control to report it found, and walked the neighborhood looking for anyone who recognized it.  Nobody did.  
On Saturday’s morning walk with 4 dogs and K in a stroller, the little newbie took off.  After always walking almost underfoot or controlled with a pinky’s hold on the leash, I was surprised, but I was also hopeful.  Maybe he knew where his home was and was heading there.  I couldn’t give chase with three dogs and a stroller.  However, when I got home, there was a guy from down the street who said this dog was loose and he thought I was the one taking care of it.  I thanked him and took him back inside.  Grrr.  Fate, you raise my hopes…just like my thinking I would be able to go to poker on Monday night.
On Saturday, I got a call saying our dishwasher delivery would not happen Sunday as planned but instead would happen Monday night between 4 and 8.  Poker starts at 7, but there is still hope.  As the installers arrive at 6:30, I think there is still hope because if I leave at 7, I will be there at 7:10 and may still be able to join.  They finished at 7:15.  So I took the dogs for a nice walk and on the walk, we met a nice family who really liked our new dog.  When I told them they could take him if they wanted, I expected a laughing rejection, but they still wanted him.  They are checking, but I have hope yet again that my plans not working out as intended will turn out for the better or even best possible outcome.
Maybe there is a reason men aren’t meant to weave the threads of fate.  We are permitted to plan, even encouraged to do so.  It’s from attempting to live those plans that great things emerge.  However, the great things are seldom exactly as I imagined.  
   
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Happy New Year! Let the Journey Begin

The New Years parties I attended in my youth rarely lived up to the anticipation.  New Years often amounted to little more than a farcical scramble to make plans as much to have them as to live them.  There was a status which went along with having plans.  I keep thinking this is more than just New Years.  There is still the search for direction, a need for a plan.  Once the plan is made, it’s often seen as the road to an easier better life.
I know I live that life every day.  I can’t tell you how often I think if this goal or that is met then all will be awe inspiringly great.  If we could just get the kids out of diapers, if we could just teach them to read, if we could just find the best medicine routine for me and the kids, if….So we plan, and we strive to achieve what we think will make us happier.  The funny part is “happier” seems to come not from achievement but rather from the efforts.  The achievement seems almost a reward to give us hope to keep moving forward.  It’s never enough.  Peaceful triumph is the carrot hanging from a stick tied to the carriage we pull.   
However, failing to find the imagined state of nirvana in no way takes away from the joy of the search.  The search itself is the Holy Grail.  I think one of the hardest parts of a chronic health condition is the added magical hurdle which seems to reappear in front of us every 5 feet.   It’s just more tiring.  Still, as the New Year signals a fresh start, may all have a wonderful journey this year towards what ever destinations await.   
On the family front, an immediate goal is to survive long enough for K to come home from the hospital.  I couldn’t be more proud of the kids as they film little messages for K every day saying we can’t wait for her to come home.  I love their desire for our house to be a home for her.  Still, what was originally thought to be short stay for some steroids has turned into a week with no quick release in sight.  So I go back to my Christmas wish, and I hope it holds sway for all those who belong in our home. 
Frequently of late, I find myself chuckling as the kids ask for more Justin Hines music and videos.  Of course to them he is the man in the wheel chair.  They think it’s great to see a man with obvious medical issues be so popular and good at entertaining.  I like the messages they take from his music, and watching them make their stuffed animals dance to the music while they sing along is priceless.
Happy New Year!
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